Thank you for your obedience, and for your ability to change lives! . Jordan Brown is the creator of The Mental Health Update. I signed up, ordered my book, and for some reason there was a mess up with the order..now Idk if I will have on e by monday! And its straight up embarrassing, no matter how understanding your boss may be. She holds an MS and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Maryland. Conf; and Ive followed you ever since.this is so timely. Notice if you interrupt. Yea! Thank you so much for your time and effort in putting this Bible Study together and working with everyone; your work is deeply appreciated!! Lets say you asked him what or who is pressuring him and he told you that you are the one pressuring him. =). Would love to win the book! Heard you on K LOVE radio yesterday. Why We Feel Pressured to Say Yes. Imm signed up for the best yes bible study. You've made Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Talk to your parents or closest friends to find out how they dealt with peer pressure themselves and what they would do if they were in your shoes. Ive also invited my daughter and daughter-in-law and a few friends to join me. And this is so fun Proverbs 31 Ministries is kicking off our free online Bible study of The Best Yes next week! God always has perfect timing with these Bible studies- I love them! That just gives them more reason to argue. I signed up! I signed up to this bible study,looking forward to learn more!! I already have the best yes but I was hoping to win another copy to give to my mom so she could join the study with us. I have learned so much valuable information that applies to my life. References. . Thank you for blessing m this past weekend at the Women of Faith conference at the Honda Center. Thanks! Already signed up. I appreciate your advice and all you do! I dont have this book yet but will pick up (if I dont win) before the Bible study begins! He probably doesnt want to get you too involved because it could make him feel guilty. A gifted book may be the ticket. Thank you so much for the opportunity to take this online study with you! As a mother, foster mom, teacher, crafter, and habitually yes-erI really need to learn that saying no is okay!! Im all signed up, got my book, my small group and ready to get going! I signed up for the study, but do not have the book. Your book was already on my list of want to reads and having a study to go along with it when I get the book will be such a blessing. Looking forward to the study, already have my book; hoping to get another for the women Ive invited to join! So, if you manage to figure out whats going on inside his head, you might be able to help him with a change in perspective. L.A. Times entertainment news from Hollywood including event coverage, celebrity gossip and deals. I am one of those overcommitted people Maybe I will win one of the five books ! Blessings! Thank you for all you do. I am signed up and ready to go! I cant wait to begin the BEST YES study! It would be great to win your book. This issue is something I desperately need in this season of life and am so looking forward to diving into! Don't mimic what they do, but stick to what you like and pursue it. I understand the importance of protecting my best yes but am still struggling to live it out and let go of the lie that I can do it all and have it all. The last thing you need is pressure from a random mental health guy on the Internet. If you're offered a drug, possible jokes can be No thanks, you don't want to see me naked jumping around the room!, Another option is to give a sarcastic explanation. And its one of the quickest paths to doubt, insecurity, and anxiety. Your project sounds wonderful. Although you might think so, this point is not similar to point 6. Being a part of The Best Yes family will be a beautiful part of my life. I said YES to The Best Yes Bible Study. I am signed up and cant wait for it to begin! However, if he refuses to talk about it even though youre there for him, dont force the conversation. If your friend is simply suggesting you do something you don't want to, as bad as it may seem, being polite will make it easier to move on and change the subject. One of my greatest challenges and question to you is, How do you handle opposition? When you have confirmation in the Lord that you are choosing as He has called you to and you get opposition form those you would expect would encourage and support. Wow. . Im signed up! In the past Ive wanted to always say yes because Ive been a people pleaser. Hello! Im signed up and cant wait to get my book! Its about two people who choose to be together. The best way to say "no" at work is to keep things simple. I am really needing this bible study! I serve in several different spots in my church Am I in each of them because it was His place for me? Or, you might think its normal for you two to spend all your weekends together because youre a couple. I am sure we will be able to apply this to all the different demands in our lives. However, you'll still have to develop a strategy of self-control to stick to your principles and habits and do only what you're comfortable with. Im signed up for the study and I cant wait for it to start!!! I have already purchased my book but would love to win another for my daughters. I am signed up for the online Bible study! Looking forward to this study. I am excited about this book! Soo excited for this study Cannot wait , Good morning! All signed up and ready to finish my race with my best yes!! I am so excited to begin this study and what an awesome way to connect with other women around the country and world! Just signed up and just ordered the book so I will be a bit behind, Im afraid. And, depending on his answer, Youll be able to decide what to say. I am looking forward to it! I cant wait to start this study! I would love love to get a copy of your book to go with the OBS!! The advice hits home and I feel like I am reading about myself in the book. Ive signed up and said yes to this study its a real place I could use some help! My girlfriends and I have signed up for your Bible studywe are looking forward to growing together! This will also be my first time in and OBS small group. Do you want to know why is this effective? This is the common phenomenon were discussing. Are you feeling pressured? It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances.. Looking forward to this study. I am looking forward to your bible study. See world news photos and videos at ABCNews.com One pastors wife admitted to being in a position where she wasnt sure saying no was even an option for her out of fear of damaging her husbands ministry. Im in. I am signed up for the study and ready to get started! When you stand up for your right to say no, you are demanding to be respected. Looking forward to this study! Thank you! Thank you. If he said he feels pressured by his financial situation, job, family, or anything else thats not under your control, heres what you could say: When he says he feels pressured, he might not want to talk about it right away. But, it is also important to take into consideration his perspective as well. Looking forward to the study! Please pray for some common ground. I am looking forward to the Bible study I just signed up for. I enjoyed your 1000 gifts study that helped me to not feel guilty about taking time to enjoy my small gifts. This will be my very first bible study.. And I have 4 friends that also have signed up to do this together! Saying yes all the time and not being to say no without having to feel guilty is sometimes hard to do but your tips on how to graciously say no in a loving way without feeling like you might hurt someones feelings or let them down is exactly what I needed. I have signed up for the study, then received your challenge to invite someone. With this newfound knowledge, your response strategy changes. . THANK YOU! My first online bible study and have heard so many good thing about it! Rather in humility value others above yourself, not looking to your own interests, but each of you to the interest of others. I signed up. I signed up awhile ago! We lead a busy life; Im hoping this this study will help bring some sanity back to it! I am so excited for this study and would love a book for a friend who plans to join me in this wonderful time! Its freeing my days of unnecessary chaos and Im using my time more effectively. Thanks so much for your faithfulness and being transparent. Are you pressuring him to spend time together doing things you like? I have been more of a yes person and I dont always say no but it had really hurt me but it just has to be said! The Occupational Outlook Handbook is the government's premier source of career guidance featuring hundreds of occupationssuch as carpenters, teachers, and veterinarians. . I would love to win this book. Thank you I especially have a hard time not saying Yes to taking care of my Grandchildren, among all the other responsibilities.(13)GC. Cant wait. They wouldnt just go for any woman because they could pull whoever they want. I love the heart behind this post and the book. I feel like you are speaking straight to me with this. You see, most people dont realize how much pressure theyre putting on their partners until they try to stop. I am so appreciative if the guidance this book and bible study will provide to me and others. Thank you! Peopled by larger-than-life heroes and villains, charged with towering questions of good and evil, Atlas Shrugged is Ayn Rands magnum opus: a philosophical revolution told in the form of an action thrillern ominated as one of Americas best-loved novels by PBSs The Great American Read. I seriously need to Unrush my life. Sometimes it can feel like you have to do what they tell you to in order to be accepted. Thank you for your inspiration and guidance. I signed up for the Bible study. So excited to start this online study!! And dont think I will regret it this time!! Its so cool! I didnt know it was coming and I thought, this must be a sign from God! Cant wait to start the online Bible Study with my friends!!! The next thing you could say is: Is there something I can do to help?. This came at just the right time in my life- I am overwhelmed with a treasurers position on the PTA and was afraid to step down until someone else stepped up. We're big on not letting you neglect your health, even during your busiest seasons. NewsNation BestReviews Nexstar Digital Journalistic Integrity THE HILL 1625 K STREET, NW SUITE 900 WASHINGTON DC 20006 | 202-628-8500 TEL | 202-628-8503 FAX The last bit is sarcasm. WebBelow are some tips on how to say no without feeling guilty or like a burden to various situations. I am so looking forward to this study! My busy schedule has got me running BUT the list of how to say no made me realize I need practice at how/when to say no. When he says he feels pressured, you might not know what to say. Notice if you say I dont know, I dont care, or it doesnt matter when someone asks what you want. I am looking forward to how God will use this book to continue to grow me more into the woman He created me to be. I were to say, While my heart wants to say yes, yes, yes, the reality of my time makes this a no. anybody that knows me would know that theyjust got brushed off. Just signed up! Im excited that God impressed upon you to write this book and now to lead this study. And it would never get to me here. I would love to win a copy of your book ,The Best YES and I am so excited about the Bible Study starting. I love these answers for no and will definitely tuck them away in my mind for those moments. I entered/signed up! My heart is already filled with love from the group that I cant wait to share it with others!! Would love to win the book! SO excited about starting something I can do from home and be accountable with a group from MOPS to discuss as we go! 2. I have signed up cant wait to read the book and participate in the bible study. While I dont have time for a lunch appointment, Id love to connect for a few minutes over the phone. I love this ministry and feel blessed to be a part of it. Book bought and $5 extra book bought that day for my SIL. Just signed up for the Best Yes and excited to try my first online bible study. The above link will give you $50 off your first session - an exclusive offer for Love Connection readers. After hearing you share about this on KLOVE, I was trying to help my dear friend see that it is not about being selfish, its about protecting you and what your family needs from you. Hell embrace it and believe that he has more control over his life. I already have my copy and cant wait to get started! I have signed up for the online study and can hardly wait to get started! The next question is, how do you respond? Get the latest international news and world events from Asia, Europe, the Middle East, and more. . God bless you! Just make sure your no is a strong and determined one. With a background in magazine and newspaper publishing with a splash of business-sense, Julie (Eckardt) Winsel is re-pursuing her passion for writing. The answer for bought is say no, one last time and attach consequences to it! I am ready to exchange my best no for a Best Yesnot only to others but to Jesus. people are beating down my door to be treasurer but I made the jump and I am stepping down tonight. Thanks for preachin that truth, Lysa! I signed up for the online study and would love a copy of the book! Cant wait to begin Sept 22!! Now when I new request comes, I dont wait for some of them to finish, I shake my head and say, Im sorry, I cant, if they insist, I let them know, I do not appreciate the pressure you are trying to put on me with your request, I simply cannot do it.. Upon further analysis, you realize that its not actually the group as a whole that is making you feel bad. Would love to receive a copy of your book to share! Im All Signed Up! Or you could say something genuine, like one of the things on my list, and make him feel better. I signed up! Consider the reasons why you need to say no to certain projects/tasks. WebThere were guys who I wanted to be a lot like who seemed to have it all. This sounds like it will be a great study and something I really need! Thank you for your online ministry. I signed up for the bible study. Fear about how others will react (or what theyll think). Thank you for a studyalthough Ive never done one online. STEP 2 Prepare your Body for Pineal Gland (Third Eye/Ajna Chakra) Activation. Im signed up for the study and anxiously awaiting the arrival of my book. Looking forward to the study! I own a copy already and signed up for the online bible study, but would love to give a copy to one of my friends so that she can do the online bible study as well! So many of us need it, and thank you for sharing it with us! Im signed up, got the book at the ready and cannot wait to get started. Excited for you and your sure success with Your Best Yes book. I am signed up and ready to go! SAY THANK YOU: Either at the start or end of your refusal thank the person for approaching you. Break it down into elements. God bless you. I want to know what happens if I cant make it to one of the bible studies? Its when one person, or people, try to influence another person, or people. Thank you for understanding. And so the first step in dealing with pressure from other people is to identify exactly how you are feeling. Thank you Lord for Lysas obedience to you. Romance novels dont get much better than Mallerys expert blend of emotional nuance, humor and superb storytelling. Booklist The #1 New York Times bestselling author of the Fools Gold romances invites you to visit Happily Inc, a wedding destination founded on a fairy tale! It takes knowing what youre capable of and knowing your limits. you are such a blessing! Thats why saying share your thoughts with me can be a good thing to say when he says he feels pressured. I am signed up and looking forward to new growth. I signed up for the Best Yes in faith because I cannot afford your book right now. I signed up for the online study and would love to win a book for my friend. now and dont want to let anyone down. Ask someone elses opinion, then listen to the answer. Just signed up. My friend and I are releasing the junk that clouds our lives that often leads to frustration because of trying to do all and be all. I will purchase the book. Thanks! So excited to get away this weekend for the retreat! . I am so excited about starting the Best Yes study. Signed up and looking forward to reading the book! pull on us throughout the day and its draining and exhausting and Im desperately needing to learn to say no graciously. 2 Understand the definition of rape. I cant wait for the Bible Study! UNLESS I SAY YOU CAN! I would love a copy of the book . Im signed up for the study, ready to GO! I know that The Best Yes Bible Study will enlighten me how to overcome making the hard choice to making the best choice with the Godly wisdom that our Father has given us and to slow down in all our busy lives. All signed up and ready to find my Best Yes! I signed up! See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. #yesaholic. I am excited to start. And boy, do I need this book! I hear the cries of others going through very difficult times and my heart breaks and ministers the truth of Gods love to them. I would love to have a copy to share with my accountability partner.that way she can also read this and we can help each other stay accountable. Here are examples of what consent looks like: I am registered and cant wait! I am so excited that I signed up for this 5 day Bibke study. But, I also know it is harder when you do not get a response from other people, especially while planning a Womens event or other activities. I am struggling with this right now anf I feel like no one understand me and Im thankful that I find this because it gives me hope of not being alone. I am such a people person! And the more you do it, the better you get at it. I signed up for the online study!! I bought the book early, read it and now I am ready to slowly unpack all of the wonderful nuggets inside. This could add even more pressure on him. Id love to win a book for one,of my sisters. Thank you so much! Im a wife, mom of two (one recently adopted from China), and a church secretary. Was perfect timing when I saw the online study being offered. I went to Women of Faith and truly enjoyed your testimonies. You are an amazing women and wonderful example to us all. When he says that he will stop the motor of the world, is he The first sentence of number 5 is good, but the second sentence just isnt anything I would ever say. My mom shared your website and the 10 list with me today. Thank you, Lysa, for being brave enough to tackle this tough topic! Im signed up, Lysa, and can hardly wait! If a guy tells you he feels pressured, you might immediately think it has something to do with you. Excited signed up and ready for the study !! Thanks, Lysa! Then, I started reading. God Bless you Lysa. I am signed up and looking forward to this study!!! Looking forward to being inspired by you and by God! You could start saying things that are going to make the situation worse. Possible suggestions could be Why don't we go to the movies instead?" I cant this time, but please do ask me again another time!. Lysa thank you, this is an answer to my prayer. I have signed up for the bible study. Thank you for being such a blessing to me! Now, someone gave me my book and I got it in the mail as a surprise. Signed up for the online study! Learning how to gracefully be more purposeful with my time, resources and the boundaries that contain them is such an intentional effort for me, when naturally helping others is what makes my heart go pitter pat. I signed up the other day and look forward to the Bible Study. Do you feel unable to speak up when youre uncomfortable? This will give you some breathing room to determine whether you want to accept their request (and how to say "no," if thats what you decide to do). Im so excited to learn what God has for me through this study! WebPeer pressure means feeling like you have to do something because people around you want you to or expect you to. Opinions expressed by Forbes Contributors are their own. (I hope West Coast time still counts as today!!) We sometimes include products we think are useful for our readers. I signed up as soon as registration opened! I signed up because I cant set my boundaries well. Have a wonderful day! I have a big problem saying NO! Nonalcoholic Alternatives In social settings, adults Im excited to start a young womens mission group tonight featuring The Best Yes as our study/devotion for the year. Im not sure how Im gonna squeeze it all into 1 hour but Im so pleased to share this with them. However, it might not be normal for him. Well, if I receive one of your books I will send one to my sister. Here are some ideas: Thank you so much for thinking of me! I know I really struggle with this & need to learn to evaluate my priorities & learn to be able to say no without worrying about pleasing people, especially at work. All signed up! I just signed up! Cant wait! Stress can take a serious toll on your health Not sure if youve already given away the 5 copies yet, but Im leaving a comment anyway! While my heart wants to say yes, yes, yes, the reality of my time makes this a no. Hi Lysa!!! I am in a season of feeling overwhelmed, so the message of this book and your blogs have been so timely! Book List. I am a people pleaser & feel I am letting someone down if I tell them no, and I cant stand that feeling. Im signed up and I would love to give this book to my daughter to share the online study with me. Signed up and ready to start saying NO! . Many of us say yes because we feel pressured and want to do a good job and get promoted. This is my 5th OBS with them and I get more excited each time!! I have just ordered my book and cannot wait to start reading it. This is an area where I struggle and hope to learn from the study. I have signed up for the online Bible study and am looking forward to it! Excited to encourage and love on other woman during this study! Cant wait to buy the DVD. I need to have this information in front of me everyday. And I am excited about being in my first online small group. Hi Lysa, You dont understand. WebFeel pressured to say yes physically or they are verbally taunting you to changed your no? Therefore, youll need to be there for him if he wants to discuss it. With a shortage of local workers available, the Charlevoix resort located about 350 kilometres northeast of Montreal turned toward foreign workers, mostly from Mexico, to fill positions mainly in I cant wait for tonight to begin. Did I tell what happened today? or No thanks, what are you doing tonight? By starting a brand new conversation that doesn't involve cigarettes, both your friend's smoking and your choice not to smoke won't look like a big deal. WebJust say no. Or maybe you have no problem standing up for yourself but find that this always ends up in an argument or you getting into trouble because you get angry and cant seem to do it in a calm way. As our church is growing he has recently asked my husband and I to take on another leadership role I am still praying about it. Signed up for the bible study today! I have been told for a long time by two of my closest friends that I need to learn to say no. And yes!! I am signed up and ready to learn!! Being newly married, with a daughter of her own under a year old, a full time job, and the wonderful news that another baby is on the way, not to mention a home they are remodeling, and the desire to satisfy a large extended family and friends, I hope she accepts the invitation to join. Jeannie Lopez-Smith, I have signed up for your online study! Copyright 2020 Lysa TerKeurst. Thanks Lysa for all you do! Just signed up! I am excited about this bible study. If you come up with fun ideas, others will look for you when they want to have a good time and follow your lead, rather than the opposite. I have signed up for the study and would love to win a copy of the book to replace the copy I gave away to someone who wanted to do the study but couldnt afford the book. If you find that you shy away from saying what you think or worry about saying no to your friends try doing these things to help yourself become more assertive; If you find that you get angry or always end up in a fight with someone when you are trying to tell them what you think or want try doing these things to help yourself become more assertive; Take a look at Peer pressure | Childline for more advice and support, theres lots of helpful information if you feel you are being pressured into smoking, drinking or using drugs, loosing weight or looking a certain way, getting into trouble or having sex and sending sexual texts or images. I respect your mental health. We've been married for 8 of them, so no one can say we didn't take our time. 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